Mom cabin fever can be overwhelming and can easily sneak up on you, especially when you’re a mother of multiples. Us twin moms can find it even more difficult to leave the house because we’re outnumbered by little ones and even the idea of it can be exhausting. There are simple ways to combat your cabin fever, beyond just embarking on a big day out.
Last week brought with it the onset of cabin fever, and Thursday evening went a bit like this:
“When was the last time I left the house?” I started to tremble as the thought rushed through my mind.
“I’ve dropped and picked up Elsie from school, does that count?”
“I’m pretty sure it doesn’t because you don’t get out of the car.”
“Have I been to the grocery store?”
“I can’t even remember.”
“Do you realize you’re talking to yourself right now?”
My brain started to jitter, my eyes felt like they were sinking back into my head. Panic set in, along with the sudden urge to run down the street naked with my hair loosely flowing behind me. Then I remembered I don’t live on a farm surrounded by open lavender fields, and in fact live in a family-friendly city neighborhood. Nudity was probably not an option… plus it’s January. However, if you’ve forgotten what’s outside your door, it’s probably time you left and found out. Time for a personal intervention.
What is Cabin Fever?
Cabin fever is not a formally diagnosed condition and instead is associated with Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) because it happens during the winter when people become housebound by the weather. Whoever came up with this linear connection has unlikely spent time as a stay-at-home-mom (SAHM). It’s even in the job title, they might as well rename us cabin-fever-moms (CFM). I assure you this condition can occur at anytime of year, and it’s severity is directly proportional to the number of young children you have.
WebMD claims cabin fever will make you:
It’s basically a mental hangover that even fried food can’t cure. To be honest, I had been feeling it all week, my children’s whining has been extraordinarily grating, and I even blogged less than usual. I’ve been crazy tired, yet waking in the middle of the night with to-do lists on auto-repeat.
It is worth mentioning that mild cabin fever can be the start of a deeper emotional crisis. You may be able to snap yourself out of it, but if you feel you need some help with counseling, whether it be in person, or through an online service. See this link for further information on online services: BetterHelp and finding an online psychologist.
5 Methods to Combat your cabin fever
On Saturday we booked a day sitter from 2-8pm. We have never done this before as we usually do date nights, not days. How novel… I went window shopping without the double stroller. It was actually pretty weird to be out and about without the babies. I soon realized that the only reason everyone is so kind and friendly is because they have love eyes for the Twinkies. In reality the general public don’t hold doors open, and don’t smile at each other – I’ve had rose tinted glasses on for the past 14-months. Still, I highly recommend it, you can even do happy hour and get home early enough to sleep it off.
The obvious remedy for cabin fever is to leave the house as we did, but sometimes it’s easier said than done. Here are some suggestions on how to pick up the mood while you’re stuck in mom jail:
Lay off the Carbs
‘Lean proteins high in omega-3 fatty acids have been repeatedly linked to improved moods, and many of these foods—like lean beef and wild salmon—are also high in B12 and vitamin D, nutrients important for emotional regulation.’ Brian Krans, Healthline.com
Carbs can make you feel bloated and sluggish, not very conducive to boosting your motivation. I’m not suggesting you go full Atkins diet, but try a meal a day without carbs, it’s surprisingly energizing and encourages you to eat more fruit and vegetables.
Look After your Gut
‘Many fail to realize that your gut is literally your second brain, and can significantly influence your mind, mood, and behavior. Your gut actually produces more mood-regulating serotonin than your brain does.’ Dr Mercola, mercola.com.
Dr Marcela explains the best way to look after your gut is to eat fermented foods. Unfortunately, I don’t think he means drink more beer, he actually means foods such as yogurt, soy sauce, kimchi and sauerkraut. If you’re wondering ‘what am I supposed to do with that lot?’, take a look at 25 Ways to Use Sauerkraut… wow, how much sauerkraut can one person eat?
Refined sugars can not only negatively affect the brain, they also promote the growth of bad bacteria in the gut. So it’s less ice cream and more fermented veg I’m afraid. If that’s not enough to make you want to leave the house to binge at the mall food court I don’t know what will.
I spent an hour in the backyard yesterday, despite the drizzly weather. Although I was still in the vicinity of the house, I got some fresh air, some exercise and a change of scenery. I wouldn’t recommend this if you’re 3-feet deep in snow right now, but even if there’s a chill in the air, wrap up and have a tinker outside. The kiddos can join, little ones love weeding!
According to Mayo Clinic, exercise improves mood and helps with depression by:
- Releasing feel-good brain chemicals (neurotransmitters, endorphins and endocannabinoids)
- Reducing immune system chemicals that can worsen depression
- Increasing body temperature, which may have calming effects
If you’re not the jogging stroller type, I would highly recommend a workout video. Kids love to bounce around and join in, and watching them doing warm-up stretches alone is enough to bring a smile to your face. It’s a win-win because laughter produces endorphins and lowers the stress hormone cortisol.
It’s extremely difficult to reduce stress when you are engulfed by children all day. As a working Mom of one child, I used to imagine the day of a SAHM filled with finger painting, reading books and long cuddles. In reality, children are surprisingly cranky, and a lot of the day is spent dealing with tantrums, bumped heads and fumbling around the cupboard to find alternatives to the lunch they’ve just thrown on the floor. They’re really very anti-social… can you imagine if adults behaved like-one year-olds do? We’d be arrested before the day was out.
Having said that, we need to find moments to relax, even if they are short. If your littles are young enough to still have naptime, make the time to sit quietly, read a book, drink tea, and all those wondrous things. If not, try your best to plan and assign a time when the children are likely to be chirpy (the boys are in the best mood immediately after breakfast) and use the opportunity to take some mom time out, even if you have to use Kids Netflix to babysit. I’m talking to myself as well as you, I am terrible at this and know it would help.
If daytime relaxation doesn’t get a look in, try some bedtime relaxation exercises to help switch off at the end of the day. I’m going to try the ‘The Relaxing Staircase Technique’ found at Mind Body Green this week.
Cabin fever intervention now in motion, I’m hoping for a more productive happy week. Are you feeling a case of the crazies? Do let me know if you have any genius remedies!
Catie: An Imperfect Mum
January 16, 2017 at 8:25 am
Oh I definitely have cabin fever having spent all weekend at home with the flu. I needed to read this today. Thank you for linking up to #EatSleepBlogRT ? Great tips.
January 16, 2017 at 9:37 am
I hope you feel better soon 🙂
January 16, 2017 at 10:22 am
I have been saying yes to every invitation going this week in a bid to combat cabin fever, and as a result have joined a new mother and baby book group, am going on a meal out with some other mums and am going on an anti-Trump protest on Inauguration Day. Best of luck with your Cabin Fever. #GlobalBlogging
January 16, 2017 at 10:58 am
Wow, you’ve got a busy week ahead! Have fun!
January 16, 2017 at 10:57 am
I get it every now and again. Relaxing and a bit of cycling on my stationary bike does help too. #globalblogging
January 16, 2017 at 12:06 pm
I need these tips, I get stir crazy all the time and I have to resist driving to Taco Bell in my pajamas with bedhead from the day before. #EatSleepBlogRT
January 16, 2017 at 5:41 pm
Heather! Happy New Year 🙂 When WordPress updated I lost my blog subscriptions and I’m having Shank-you-very-much withdrawal. I’m not sure driving to Taco Bell in your PJs counts as leaving the house either, it’s pretty much the same as the school car like but I suspect it tastes better.
The Mum Reviews
January 16, 2017 at 1:39 pm
I hadn’t really thought much about how the winter confinement can have such an effect, but you are right. I definitely need to try harder to exercise as I know it makes me feel better but it’s hard to get motivated when it’s so miserable outside. I like the bit about eating sauerkraut etc. I love those sorts of fermented foods! #EatSleepBlogRT
January 16, 2017 at 5:42 pm
It reality those those are great but the fermented just sounds like something’s gone wrong ?
January 17, 2017 at 5:35 pm
These are such great tips!! We have have some serious cabin fever over here, and I bet part of it is the binge eating bag(s) of chips and cookies! Going to take this advice to heart, thanks for sharing!
January 18, 2017 at 6:28 pm
Oh I lov this post! What a great idea to get the day sitter too. This post has really motivated me. I have stumbled it and tweeted it too #gloablblogging
January 18, 2017 at 10:09 pm
Thankyou 🙂 We all need a boost sometimes!
One Messy Mama
January 19, 2017 at 9:03 am
We are in the middle of winter, and between snow and freezing temperatures, I don’t think I have been “Out The House” in almost a month. Being pregnant as well, going out is the last thing I feel like. I actually told my husband just the other day that I think I am experiencing Cabin Fever. This was a great read. I really had no clue about the Gut? Very interesting. Thank you for sharing! #globalblogging
January 19, 2017 at 9:47 am
Yuck! The winter is hard!!
Kimberley | Oh Just My Litte B
January 19, 2017 at 11:55 am
Wishing you a productive happy week now! x #SharingtheBlogLove
January 19, 2017 at 3:14 pm
Both my babies have had flu so I have spent the last 9 days stuck indoors! I think its safe to say I have “cabin fever” The kids hate staying in too so along side of the sobs of feeling poorly we also get the irritable feeling from them from been bored. The fresh air can make such a massive difference in our thoughts and feelings, I get so depressed been stuck in doors, I think its because I also sit and think more when I’m stuck indoors!!
January 19, 2017 at 4:38 pm
You think so much more! It’s enough to make your eyeballs spin! ?
Katy - Hot Pink Wellingtons
January 23, 2017 at 7:06 am
We have just started potty training so I’m feeling that the cabin fever may set in this week! So far I’ve scoffed half a tube of Pringles, so laying off the carbs is probably good advice 🙂 Gardening is normally my go-to, but it’s so cold here I can’t face that! We’re going to be having lots of kids TV on I feel! Thanks for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove
Laura - dear bear and beany
January 23, 2017 at 3:30 pm
I feel like we have cabin fever, it is so cold here at the moment that I just don’t want to be out in it. The girls are happy to be playing with their toys from Christmas and that is fine with me. I am sure we will be out and about soon. Thank you for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove x